Size (doesn't) Matter

This post has been rattling around in my head for awhile now. That's because I've had many of these moments. The moments I'm talking about, are the moments of shocked surprise whenever I reveal my dress size.


This is a post about body image.


Everyday you're seen by others. And you're seen through eyes holding onto any number of personal baggage items. I have found, if your personal body gripe is your big butt, every other woman is looked at and seen for the shape of her butt (be it bigger, smaller, shapelier etc than yours). One of mine is as a blonde, the most stunning people I see are brunettes. It's all about wanting what you don't have. Straight haired girls are always telling me how fantastic my curls are and how they wish they had half the volume I do. You know what I'm talking about.


So what are these moments I'm talking about? Well let me explain. Firstly know that I consider myself in the realm of "normal". BMI does not. But in my opinion the people behind the BMI are bloody minded idiots. I'm not a size 6, nor am I a 26. I'm somewhere in between. And while I would love to lose a few kilos (ok a lot of kilos) I'm working on highlighting the areas I'm pleased with and hiding the ones I'm not.


Wearing skin tight clothing does not suit my shape. Wearing clothes that draws attention to the areas I love about myself makes me feel beautiful. Especially if commented on those areas. So that's what I do.


Tips from my mother:

• Don't get hung up on the size. Sizing is just a number. Wear what you're comfortable in that suits your shape. One size in one store is completely different in another.
• If half a size bigger looks better, do it!
• Don't wear the latest fashion if it doesn't suit you. Know what flatters your shape and embrace your beauty

Enjoy your body. Embrace your beauty. Know that the thing about yourself you hate, someone else loves. This is know to be true. I have always hated my nose. Not in a "must do something to fix it NOW!" way, but in a "meh" kinda way. My husband doesn't believe there is anything to hate about my nose and when both our girls were born wasted no time in telling my that our perfect baby angels did indeed have the same nose as me. A nose, which looks delightfully button like on their adorable little faces.


Of all the posts I've written, I hope this is one of the ones that my daughters find when they google me in the future. If it is, I have this message for them:


Ava & Lily - Believe in yourselves! Love yourself first and others will love you in return. You are both beautiful, amazing, curious and intelligent. The world is yours to explore and discover and I love you both endlessly xx